Personal experiences of wellbeing in the Order

Order members living with neurological degenerative diseases

In this series of interviews, Order members speak with Mahasraddha about the challenges they face with the experience of living with a specific neuro-degenerative disease. Given the ageing demographic of the Order, we can expect to see an increase in the number of Order members developing a neurological degenerative disease, or their partners or parents doing so.


Viriyagita on practicing with Parkinson’s Disease

The following interview with Viriyagita, based in the US, forms part of our series of recorded conversations in which Order members speak about a particular degenerative neurological condition, how they practice with the condition and the support they need.

Viriyagita has Parkinson’s Disease (PD). Just prior to the interview, Viriyagita wasn’t sure whether she would be under-medicated and therefore stiff and slow, or whether she would over-medicated with uncontrolled involuntary muscle movements. Viriyagita started the interview with some stiffness and continued with increased involuntary movements, but she was not in a distressed state. In Viriyagita’s words: ‘I can just do my best and can only work on my state of mind, and be aware that I am connected to all beings and wish them all well’.     

I would like to express my thanks to Viriyagita, and to all those who have taken part in this series to date: I have been given new perspectives, especially of metta, that I have taken into Dharma practice.

The joy of mindfulness while living with Motor Neurone Disease

Miles, a mitra who has asked for ordination and living in Worcester talks to Mahasraddha about how being diagnosed with Motor Neurone Disease (MDN) impacts on his experience of going for refuge in the context of Triratna and how it has led to him going deeper in his practice. He talks of the pleasure he derives from mindfulness and says of the mindfulness of breathing, ‘ As long as I’m still breathing I can still practice the mindfullness of breathing and it gives me such a connection to being alive …’


Living with PAF - An interview with Dayachitta

This interview with Dayachitta continues our series of talking to Order members about living with a neurological disease. In this video, Dayachitta, who was ordained in 1990 and currently lives in Cambridge, describes the rare condition that she has, PAF (pure autonomic failure). She explains to Mahasraddha some of the effects this has on her life and Dharma practice. She also suggests practical ways that people might be able to help, especially on retreats.


Living with MS - Interview with Buddhaseveka

In this interview Buddhasevaka, who has a progressive Multiple Sclerosis, speaks about the challenges he faces, and how he practices the dharma in the context of his condition and, crucially, the support he finds helpful.


A fascinating interview with Vilasini

Vilasini talks to Mahasraddha about how dementia has impacted her life and practice of the Dharma. She explains how she is not only living with dementia but how she has managed to reverse some of the symptoms through her practice, and stresses the importance of patience.


In 2021 we interviewed 5 Order members about mental wellbeing

Vajradevi; meditation and trauma

In this interview, Jinavamsa asks Vajradevi if trauma can surface in meditation as a result of long term practice, and could meditation teachers benefit from training to recognise when people they teach are encountering trauma and acute anxiety in their practice?

Vajradevi was ordained in 1995. She has been practising and teaching mindfulness with a strong insight dimension for over 25 years. She emphasises a receptive yet precise way of being aware which can be brought to any moment of our lives. Her book Uncontrived Mindfulness is published by Windhorse Press.


Amritasukha discusses practising in the Order with severe anxiety

Amritasukha

Amritasukha

Taradakini: Amritasukha, thank you for contributing to this important conversation. Can you start by saying something about your ‘life before Triratna’?

Amritasukha: At around age 12 I started to realise that what the other boys were starting to show interest in (girls) wasn’t what I was interested in. I liked the other boys, and I seemed to be the only one. This had two consequences … Read More


Prasadu explains REBT and its benefits

Prasadu, a clinical psychologist, talks with Mahasraddha about the benefits of REBT and Kalyana Mitrata.

Prasadu was ordained in 1994 and has been using using mindfulness-based practices in the NHS since the early 90s. His favourite text is The Dhammapada, and ‘Mind precedes all mental states, mind is their chief, they are all mind wrought’ sums up how his clinical psychology work and Buddhist practice complement each other.


Advayasiddhi; compassion and mental well being

Advayasiddhi, a clinical psychologist based in Copenhagen, talks with Utpalavajri about compassion-focused responses to mental wellbeing.

Advayasiddhi met the Dharma in Bodh Gaya in 1997, then spent 8 years deeply involved in Triratna in the UK, working at the Cambridge Buddhist Centre before returning to Denmark in 2006 and, after ordination in 2007, trained as a clinical psychologist. She has spent 6 years working in a specialised clinic for complex disorders and helps train other therapists to use mindfulness and cognitive and compassion-focused therapies. 

Utpalavajri was our Abhayaratna Trust Bookkeeper from 2020-2022. With past experience of mental health difficulties herself, Utpalavajri wanted to join the Trust’s conversation about mental wellbeing in the Order.

Silajala talks about his personal experience of mental health

SilaJala

Silajala

Taradakini: Silajala, thank you very much for opening up this conversation about mental health in the Order. Could you tell us a little about your background?

Silajala: I’m originally from Birmingham, but lived in Bristol from 1992-2018, with the exception of a couple of ‘Brixits’ when I lived and worked with Buddhafield, and a year in London with the Karuna Trust. I was ordained in 2001, Vessantara being my private preceptor – my name means ‘he who is ablaze with ethical behaviour’. I now live in Devon with three other Order members.

Taradakini: You have experience of mental health difficulties - when did this start? Read More


Resources

If you or someone you know is experiencing mental health difficulties, here are some resources that may be helpful:

International

Compassionate Mind Foundation: https://www.compassionatemind.co.uk

UK Wide

Samaritans: Every day, we respond to around 10,000 calls for help. No judgement. No pressure. We're here for anyone who needs someone; Phone 116 123 https://www.samaritans.org

CALM: (The Campaign Against Living Miserably) is leading a movement against suicide; Phone: 0800 58 58 58 (daily 5pm-midnight); www.thecalmzone.net

SHOUT: Shout is a 24/7 text service, free on all major mobile networks, for anyone struggling to cope and in need of immediate help; (Text SHOUT to 85258); www.giveusashout.org

Rethink Mental Illness: Offers practical help and information for anyone affected by mental illness; phone 0300 5000 927 (Mon-Fri 9.30am-4pm); www.rethink.org

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide: To help overcome the isolation of people bereaved by suicide, phone 0300 111 5065 (daily 9am to 9pm); https://uksobs.org

Harmless: Work to address and overcome issues relating to self-harm and suicide: contact via https://harmless.org.uk

England and Wales

MIND: Provides advice and support to help anyone experiencing mental health problems; phone: 0300 123 3393 (weekdays 9am - 6pm); www.mind.org.uk

Scotland

SAMH: (Scottish Association for Mental Health) can provide general mental health information and signpost you to your local services; phone: 0141 530 1000 (Mon-Fri 9am – 5pm) www.samh.org.uk

Breathing Space: A free, confidential phone and web-based service for people in Scotland experiencing low mood, depression or anxiety; phone: 0800 83 85 87 (Mon-Thu 6pm-2am, weekends 24 hours; www.breathingspace.scot

Ireland

Samaritans: Every day, we respond to around 10,000 calls for help. No judgement. No pressure. We're here for anyone who needs someone; Phone 116 123 https://www.samaritans.org

Mental Health Ireland: Supports people with lived experience of mental health challenges in their recovery; www.mentalhealthireland.ie

Germany

Deutsche Depressions Hilfe: Hilfe und Informationen zum Umgang mit der Erkrankung; www.deutsche-depressionshilfe.de/start

Spain

Salud Mental: https://consaludmental.org/servicios/

Support in Spain: For a directory of useful local organisations, visit https://www.supportinspain.info/organisations/

Mexico

Centro Universitario de Salud Mental UIC: https://www.uic.mx

India

It’s OK To Talk: Believes that talking about mental health is the first step to breaking the stigma; www.itsoktotalk.in

New Zealand

The Lowdown: Free 24/7 helpline; phone 0800 111 757; text 5626; email or webchat via website https://thelowdown.co.nz


Australia

Sane: Counselling online; http://Counsellingonline.org.au

Some books that Order members have read and found helpful:

Thomas Moore - Care of the Soul

Thomas Moore - Dark Nights of the Soul

Murray Stein - In Midlife

Matt Haig - Reasons to Stay Alive

Williams, Teasdale, Segal, Kabat-Zinn - The Mindful Way Through Depression